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Relationship Tips
Relationship Keys
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Fix Relationship Problems
With True Love Keys
Ah, to be truly in love. Oh, what
a feeling! Everyone wants true love. We dream about it, we watch movies
about it, we work hard to get into relationships to find it. We are
hardwired physically with intimacy needs about true love.
Then, when we get into a relationship, it feels great at first. We often
feel some stirrings of true love. But over time, the longer we are
together, it seems like true love starts to slip away some. The person who
felt so right in the beginning can start to feel less right after a while.
Keeping true love is much harder than finding it, isn’t it? If not, we’d
still be with our first high school crush. So what can you do to keep true
love? There are many ways. Here are 3 keys to help you have more of
it:
A first key true love factor is to get that ALL relationships have phases.
The first honeymoon phase where everything is great can't last. It gives
way to the me/us phase, where some separation occurs and we need to get on
with our own goals and interests. True love isn't gone, it just changes
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Another factor for keeping true love alive is to balance giving and
receiving. You have to give some love and attention to your mate, and you
have to get some loving attention from them. It can't be mostly one way or
the other or this will damage true love over time.
A third important factor to keeping true love alive is simple yet very
powerful. This factor is PLAY. The more you play with your mate, the
closer and more intimate you will feel. Too often the burdens of adulthood
take over our lives and we forget to make time to play with our mate.
Do you play with your mate on a regular basis? Do you spend some time doing
things together that you both enjoy? Do you have a date night once a week?
Research has shown that the more play the less conflict between partners.
So focus on play and reap the rewards.
True love is not static. It is an ongoing effort. But don't give up on
true love because it is challenging. Pay attention to the factors that
increase it and keep learning more about it and you will reap the rewards of
having more true love in your love life.
And understand that
conflict will occur even with true love. Two healthy
adults will pull in separate directions from time to time. True love
includes conflict and working things out when they get a little
uncomfortable, not running away. You don't get to keep true love until you
learn it is bigger than just the fun times.
Action Steps: How much do
you feel that you give in your relationship? Are you the one who gives
the most or takes the most? What can you do to balance this?
There is much more relationship intelligence that can help your relationship
to thrive, not just survive. Studying and adding to your relationship skills
by practicing intimacy can pay off for years. |
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