Relationship Tips
Relationship Keys
Relationship Problem Help
Fix Relationship Problems
With An Intimacy Act
Ok, so you got into a relationship
to feel more love and intimacy in your life. Then all these relationship
problems start to occur. Its normal and has got to happen in all
relationships.
What can you do to make things
better? One way to fix relationship problems is to add more love and
intimacy into your relationship.
You can begin to increase the amount of intimacy you feel starting today if
you take the right actions. Some great relationship intelligence is to
understand that you have the power to increase love in your relationship.
There are actions you can take to do this.
There are lots of different powerful acts you can take to increase love in
your marriage. We'll talk about just one of these now, that you can start
using more of today: understanding.
For example, if your mate tells you in passing they are worried about an
upcoming performance review at work, they may look to you like they aren't
really that worried. So you don't stop to talk to them about their concerns.
But for them, inside, they may be really afraid of losing their job, and if
you don't take some time to listen to them they can feel slighted, like you
don't really care about their concerns.
We all want to feel heard and understood. It is a basic human intimacy need.
Make your mate feel heard and understood around any emotional issues and
they will feel more loved by you. If they ask for help with the kids and you
just shout at the kids to be quiet, maybe they really wanted more help than
that.
So you can increase the intimacy between you easily by making sure your
partner feels heard and understood. One simple way to do this is to repeat
back what you heard, and ask if you got it. So you want more help with the
kids, is that right? What kind of help are you thinking? Feeding back what
you heard and asking clarifying questions is a simple yet powerful act of
intimacy.
Sure, we "talk" with each other many times a day, but do we always
understand each other? Making sure that you do can pay off over the years
with more feelings of love and close partnership between you.
Take these action steps today:
Try more small talk with your
mate. Just ten minutes a day. While doing this, listen intently.
Make them feel heard and understood.
Feed back what you hear from them
occasionally. Say "what I'm hearing you say is..." This makes
them feel more heard and understood.
Try just these two things every
day for the next week and see what happens.
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