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Relationship Tips
Relationship Keys
Relationship Problem Help
Fix Relationship Problems By
Unmasking True Love
Ah, that feeling when we find a
relationship and feel some true love and we are very happy. For a while.
Then some conflict or distance or routine settles in and we seem to lose it
some.
How do we keep true love going in a relationship long term? How do we keep
from losing this true love which can be so hard to ever find? Is there
a way to avoid relationship problems by returning to the true love you felt
in the beginning?
The answers to these questions are multiple and complex. There are many issues you need to
pay attention to in order to keep your relationship strong and keep the
feeling of true love.
For now we will look at one aspect of keeping the true love you find. And
that is to learn to take off your mask with your partner. True love requires
us to be authentic and genuine in the relationship.
Now, of course, we all wear masks in our daily lives. One example of a mask
is being a "good girl." You try to please your man, you try to avoid
conflict, you focus on being a good follower and a helpful partner. Another
type of mask could be "I don't need anybody, I'm strong and independent."
You try to handle everything yourself and appear strong and invulnerable.
Yet, when it comes to true love, wearing our masks in the relationship can
get in the way. Being a good girl is nice, but sometimes you cant just go
along with your mate. Sometimes you need to have conflict and you need to
stand up for what you want, not just pleasing your partner. And sometimes
you have to make sure you are getting pleased, not just doing all the
pleasing.
And the independent strong type needs to learn to take off that mask and let
their partner in. To be vulnerable and discuss the parts of yourself wear
you feel stress and not so together.
We need to learn to take off our masks with our partners. True love cannot
grow in a relationship that is not genuine and based on the truth. Wearing a
mask all the time, trying to put on your best persona, will kill off true
love because you have to be real and honest to keep love going strong.
Action Step: See what masks
you wear in your relationship. Then see if you can risk yourself and
reveal the other or opposite side of yourself over time. Try it and
see the value for yourself!
There is much more relationship intelligence that can help your relationship
to thrive, not just survive. Studying and adding to your relationship skills
by practicing intimacy can pay off for years.
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